I absolutely love this quote by Rumi. How clever were we when we were young? Setting out in life, ready to take on anything that didn’t fit our ideals. Ready to change the world. I admit, I was a hot little chili pepper in my youth. I was fiery and quick to snap back at anything that didn’t feel right or fair to me. I was argumentative and would go rounds with anyone to prove my point or wear them down enough to cry uncle and agree with me.
As I got into my 30s, I wasn’t so interested in fighting anymore. I was tired, and I wasn’t getting anywhere with it anyway. So I started to look at myself. I started to realize that I really did have control over how I viewed situations. That view could be the difference between anger and peace. It wasn’t always easy, but I tried to choose peace as much as possible.
Now that I’m almost halfway through my 40s, I realize even more that I don’t have any business trying to garden in anyone else’s garden, just as I don’t want them in mine, either. If someone wants to walk down a path that I see loaded with landmines, it’s their path to walk. Sure, I could advise them to watch out, but it’s really their choice, isn’t it? Really all I can do is walk my own path and keep my nose in my own back yard. 😉
Deepak Chopra says, “What you think of me is none of my business.” I really like that, and it fits in with the mood of Rumi’s quote. We all have enough going on in our own lives without trying to manage anybody else’s – or worrying about somebody trying to manage us. It really is freeing.
One of the biggest changes I’ve made in myself is responsibility. I am a million times more responsible for my own actions and words than I was even 10 years ago. I screw up, but I will admit it. I do not let other people take the blame for my mistakes. I’m just not afraid anymore. If someone dislikes me because I am human and made a mistake, see Deepak Chopra quote above and move along. I also find, as an added bonus to this, I can more quickly and easily manifest a new reality when I accept responsibility. If I’m not being clear about what I want, I can’t expect to get a clear response. So by accepting that I didn’t do my part, I can fix that and change my experience.
Are you clever or wise? What have you done to change the world or change yourself? As always, I love to hear from you!
With much love, light, and gratitude,